An interesting night last night that carried over into this morning. My girlfriend and I had a talk about my desire to dress and her comfort level around it. While she’s been at least generally accepting of it there’s still been a bit of unease. Part of it is that is because she says that what she finds attractive about me is my “manliness” and it’s hard for her to wrap her head around this other side of me.
We then spent the evening discussing ways to see if she could be more comfortable around me dressing. Part of, we agreed, is familiarity. When we first started dating I was open about it and that I did it. At that time I had been shaving my legs and chest for some time so that was how she got to know me. It was weird for her, but she got to where it was “normal”.
When I started using clear polish on my nails several months ago, it was a bit of a shock to her at first, but again, it is becoming “normal”.
And, I did get the chance to fully dress for her back in July and it wasn’t a complete turn-off for her. So in the end, we talked about me being more “out” around the house in order for her to gain that familiarity. Therefore, my (or our) goal is to dress more, wear make-up more often. Do things we normally do around the house except dressed and in make-up. And that includes being myself and doing things like hugging her, kissing her, cuddling on the couch, all while dressed.
And, to make good on our agreement, as I was in the mood to do so, I told her I was going to wear make-up to work today (my usual minimal, natural look). I showered, got dressed and applied the concealer, foundation, powder, and mascara and then “reveled” myself. I guess I did a good job with the natural look because she said “I honestly can’t tell you have it on”. Only looking close could she tell I was even wearing mascara. She also commented on how fast it was. When I came upstairs she said “Did you already put make-up on”? Of course, I had showered, shaved, dressed and applied make-up. Her comment was that it usually takes her an hour. I guess it does help to go minimal 🙂
Well my lovelies, I need to wrap this up.
Till next time,